The True Cost of Eating Healthy Food

I know I’ve talked about this here before, but recently, I’ve had several opportunities for further observation into this matter!

Several times each week, I hear someone tell me that “It’s too expensive to eat healthy food.” I’m also often found on the receiving end of comments like, “We can’t buy all the healthy foods that YOU buy!!” That one little jab in particular usually leaves me mopping the floor with my jaw! (If only they knew!)

Sure, sure, there are plenty of healthier foods that do in fact cost more. I like to think it’s because they also bring a higher value of nutrition and purity. BUT, there are plenty of healthy choices that do NOT cost more at all.

Anyhow, I’ve said it before – healthy food is an investment.

The interesting opportunities I’ve recently had have opened my eyes a little bit more to conventional thinking on the subject of the REAL cost of buying healthier foods.

The first incident occurred on a field trip with my kids. I was surrounded by several of their classmates during the lunch break while we all enjoyed our packed lunches. As usual, I experienced a little bit of heart break while witnessing what an average child eats in any given meal.

I saw more packaged, processed, artificially colored fake foods in thirty minutes than I’ve seen in a long time! I’m pretty sure I did not see any naturally occurring green foods entering the mouths of any kids! Could have just been an “off day”, I suppose.

I’ve learned to somewhat detach myself from these events AND to not judge. People just don’t know. That’s why I do what I do. BUT, what I found very, very interesting was that several of these kids belong to parents who have privately consulted with me in the past and told me that it’s just too expensive to feed their kids healthy foods.

That’s when I started looking at these lunches through a different pair of goggles! I started totaling up the probable costs of all the food and drinks packed in these lunches. In no time at all, it was clear to me that I was the one who “couldn’t afford to feed MY kids food like THAT!” It costs a lot of money to buy junk food!

One child sitting near us had a white bread sandwich with some interesting looking lunch meat, a bag of name brand chips, a bag of name brand crackers, a juice box and another name brand juice packet, a bag of name brand candy… and a few grapes! Yes, the grapes were good!!

Another child had half a dozen fairly large cookies, a bag of Cheetos, a juice packet, a couple baby carrots (good) and some french fries from the cafeteria.

Chips, crackers, cookies, cupcakes, juice, milk, as well as cafeteria hot dogs, fried chicken fingers and french fries were evident at every single table… not necessarily all items in every child’s lunch… but some combination at every single table.

As I recalled seeing the advertised prices of some of these products in various stores, and the cafeteria prices, I knew there was some fishy business going on when parents dismissed healthy eating as “too expensive”.

What did our kids have, you ask? Hard-boiled eggs, almond butter/banana roll-ups, carrots, tomatoes, cucumbers, broccoli (all with some hummus for dipping), some fresh strawberries and water. They were perfectly happy with their food – because this is normal for them – until they saw what everyone around them was “enjoying”. That’s the tough part for me.

Socialization isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be!  When you keep thinking like everyone else, and acting like everyone else, and doing what everyone else is doing… you’ll end up with what everyone else has got! In the case of health… that’s not a good thing.

Whatever. This isn’t about “my” kids and the food “we” eat. It’s about my musings on the real cost of healthy food… and the real cost of choosing foods that are NOT healthy.

The second opportunity to assess the cost of eating healthier happened on a recent shopping trip. I headed out to the local store to fulfill two shopping purposes: 1) to replenish our family’s produce for the rest of the week, and 2) to purchase items for a gathering that was happening with some other families later that day. I had been given a partial list by the other ‘grown-ups’ involved and set out to fill the list.

As I was nearing the check-out, I glanced down at my shopping cart and realized how unusual it looked to see a cart being pushed by ME that had so many non-health-building items in it! I also realized that this was going to cost a pretty penny, with no real return on investment… at least not a HEALTH return! Sure, I knew the things in my cart would taste great to most, and we’d all have a great time together… but that’s a lot of money to spend to fill up rather than FUEL up. Thank goodness this is just for a one-time party, I thought to myself. I could NOT do this every week.

Then, I was saddened as I looked around at other carts and other check-out lanes, filled with many of the same items… and MORE!

I had fresh produce for fruit and veggie trays (as well as our own stock) – that was all good. Some was organic, some was not. When organic produce is not available, I use the hydrogen peroxide wash I’ve talked about here before. Not expensive, yet very effective. The prices for organic were all comparable to conventional… or close enough that I chose health over perceived cost. I chose not to purchase the conventional dip for veggies as requested. It’s easy enough to make your own without all the toxic garbage that virtually nullifies the benefits of the veggies!

At the request of other folks involved in the plan, I also picked up pretzels, a type of ‘sun’ chips and tortilla chips, as well as queso dip and salsa. It was a stretch to find brands lacking the biggest nutritional offenders: high fructose corn syrup, artificial colors and sweeteners, hydrogenated & partially hydrogenated fats, neurotoxins, soy, etc. Obviously, I gave in on the refined simple carbohydrates issue!

Finally, for beverages, I chose lemonade, vegetable juice and chai tea – all organic. THAT was one of the biggest eye openers! Regardless of whether or not the beverage selection was organic, drinks are expensive! (So are breakfast cereals… in an unrelated note!) We are used to drinking water in our family – keeps things pretty darn simple! (Oh, and an ever-decreasing amount of organic coffee from our local discount warehouse and the occasional bottle of red wine. None for quite awhile now, though.)

I really can’t fathom how families facing tough economic situations can purchase juice & juice drinks, milk, pop, and sports drinks week in and week out. Add to that the price of chips, crackers, cookies, cereal, pastries, snack foods, dips, fast food, desserts and on and on… it’s unreal! Again, how much of it actually builds health? That’s the truly sad part.

I KNOW that we spend more money on organic, free-range poultry and eggs and grass-fed meats. BUT, I’ve become quite skilled at some savvy shopping,  healthy meal planning and a  “cook it once, enjoy it in several meals” mentality. Our grocery bills have sharply decreased since taking a very serious look at this in the last few months.

We do not spend a penny on fast food, pop, juice drinks, milk, or conventional junk food or snack foods. Are you kidding?! That stuff’s expensive!! As you’ve probably guessed, we also don’t spend any money on over-the-counter medicine… no aspirin, no cough medicine, no antihistamines… nada. That stuff’s pricey, too!

I like to think that the money I don’t spend on these things is the money I do invest in better quality meat, eggs, sprouted grains and organic (and raw if available) dairy. I will spend a tad more on organic produce when it’s available, but I also grow a lot of my own and I freeze bulk organic local fruit when it’s in season so I don’t have to spend an arm and a leg throughout the winter months. We also invest our saved money in a handful of higher quality nutritional supplements to fill any gaps.

I won’t run a risky experiment on my own family to truly figure this out down to the penny, but I get the feeling that eating (and living) this way is probably not as “costly” as you may think. I probably don’t spend as much on food as other folks think I do. I also think that some other folks might be surprised by how much more money they spend on food and “health-related” things than I do. It kinda’ all works itself out… probably comes close to evening out!

And, do you know what? Where it doesn’t even itself out financially, I go back to my earlier statement. Making healthier food choices is an investment… not a cost.

Related Blogs

New Year’s Resolutions and Goals for the Year

images journey

images journey

I don’t exactly make New Year’s Resolutions, per say. But, I DO look for opportunities throughout the year to challenge myself to get ‘better’. I feel a personal responsibility to myself to do this!! : )

Whether it’s New Year, back-to-school, planning for a vacation or a special event, or a new season around the corner, I typically find a reason to challenge myself in some specific area(s) of my health and lifestyle.

New Year is a time that I set new goals for the entire year and re-assess long-term goals. This isn’t a casual, frivolous endeavor for me. It’s not something I chuckle about 2 days into the year that “I’ve already broken all my resolutions!” I probably wouldn’t have set resolutions like that in the first place if they were so easy to break that quickly!

This is the time that I focus on being the co-creator in my life – I put my free will to use and proactively decide how I will help shape my life. “Life by Design” I call it. (The name of my new book, by the way!) I find this FAR more fun, as well as interesting and meaningful, than the silly, unrealistic resolutions typically set at this time of year. Actually, it’s not always that the resolution is all that silly… it’s typically that the resolution-setter isn’t all that committed in the first place. Just kind of goin’ through the motions of setting resolutions isn’t much of a strategy for success!

Starting off this year, I’ve re-focused on 3 major areas that I’d like to improve and have laid out a challenge for myself.

First, I’m focused on Intention and Attraction. The power of my thoughts, feelings, words, actions, and how they directly shape the outcome of my day… my life. I have re-established some daily rituals that nourish this ultra important focus. Oh, sure. I am definitely pulled off track on this one throughout my day! But the rituals I have in place help me shift and get back on track far more quickly than when I don’t have this as a primary focus in my life.

The second area of focus is exercise and movement. I already exercise regularly, but I just raised the bar for myself and I’m having a little personal competition that deals with a daily challenge. Must be an only-child thing! I’ll write more about the exercise component in another post.

Finally, just like I do a few other times throughout the year, I like to start the New Year off by giving my body (and mind) a break from some of the more toxic &/or deficient things I may have been allowing. I’m always somewhat surprised to realize what I’ve been allowing out of habit or stress or whatever! I find SO much freedom and empowerment when I let go of the big toxic offenders in my life.

I know that I say “Add the good things FIRST… don’t worry about taking away the bad yet.” Well, there comes a time when you have to address the things that are clearly not helping you create better health and greater happiness! New Year is a great time for that – time to clean your “house”!

Whether or not you’re into the whole New Year’s Resolution mindset, I think that we deserve the opportunity to re-evaluate our life on a regular basis, and see where we can proactively make things better… healthier and happier. Every “good” thing you add, every positive shift, and every healthy choice you make DOES add up over time. Every journey consists of single steps!

How about you? Have you recently set some goals or resolutions? How are you doing with them so far?

Related Blogs

Glitches With The Dr. Mom Site ~ Happy New Year, too!

NewYearResolution

NewYearResolution

Hi there… and Happy New Year!

You may have noticed that I haven’t posted here for almost a couple weeks now. On December 31st, my ‘host’ for this site was hit by a “terrorist cyber attack” that shut down DrMomOnline.com, as well as all other sites we have with them.

Inconvenient? Yes. Not much I could do about it though. Had to truly go with the flow as they worked through the problem.

I had many great “plans” for kicking off the New Year with super tips, strategies and tools to help you achieve your goals… but, evidently, God had other plans! I’m good with that!

(Don’t worry… I can still share most of the goodies I had planned to for January 1st!)

Anyhow, when they got the site back up a couple days ago, it seems as though a few days worth of posts were missing. December 26 – 31st have disappeared. I wanted to re-post those for you, but it appears that they’re also missing from my Facebook page, www.DrMomOnFacebook.com. Guess it really wasn’t in the cards to share my thoughts and health-building activities for the last week of the year!!

Oh, well. It’s time for a fresh start (and better back-up!)!

Glad to be back… and let me know how I can help you meet your health & happiness goals this year, and what challenges you may be running up against.

Related Blogs

Holiday Joy!

Copy of P1050109Hopefully, you’re enjoying your Christmas and Holiday festivities! I’d just like to say thank you for following me here on “Dr. Mom” – I truly appreciate your support.

May you fully enjoy the beauty of the season and the rich blessings bestowed upon us all.

God Bless!

Related Blogs

Field Trip Fun and Political Discussions

Loving our field trips!
Loving our field trips!

Loving our field trips!

I had the kids out on another field trip today.  We spent the day at a gorgeous little settlement that’s set in the 1800′s.

They got to make toys from that era, as well as perform several of the chores that children would have regularly been expected to perform: hauling water up from the creek, scrubbing laundry on washboards then hanging it out to dry, making butter, cleaning wool, gathering kindling. Good thing their work ethic is back in check – I’m thinking they’re ready to step it up at home now!

It was a fantastic field trip and a really nice time with the kids.

Afterward, I decided to take them out for lunch in the nearby downtown rather than head back to the house. I opted for a favorite spot of mine (and my hubby’s) that has a nice deck right next to a wonderful little river. We’re always highly entertained by the countless ducks cruising by while they’re upside down, looking for food!

Duck bums are too cute!

The restaurant also has a nice bison burger, so that’s another reason why it’s on my list of favorites.

The kids and I had nicely settled in on the deck and were taking in the sights and sounds of nature surrounding us. We were watching a gray squirrel on the deck railing as it was gnawing on an acorn – fresh off last week’s science class about rodents at the Nature Zoo, the kids were having fun trying to impress mom with their intellectual prowess!

Suddenly, my 7-year old daughter turned to me and said, loud enough for the patrons at surrounding tables to clearly hear, “Oh, speaking of acorns, I’ve been meaning to ask you something. I’m not sure if I saw it on Hannity, The O’Reilly Factor or Glenn Beck, but I’ve been wondering what’s going on with this ACORN organization?!”

I promptly choked on my beverage.

WHAT?! How OLD are you??

You should have seen the looks on the faces of people around us!! A foursome of gentlemen who were enjoying lunch after a round of golf were turning red with laughter! I’m not sure if it was because of her question… or because of my reaction!

My 4-year old son, who revels in his recently acquired role of “know-it-all”, smoothly responded to his sister, “It was Glenn Beck. I like that guy!”

Is it obvious that we’ve been tuning into Fox News quite a bit more in recent months, with all the corruption and shenanigans surrounding “health care” reform?

Apparently, it’s obvious to our children!

Our happy-go-lucky squirrel watching and trivia turned to conversation revolving around maintaining a level of respect for the President of the United States… and simultaneously balancing that with standing up for what’s right in the face of lies, corruption, inaccurate paradigms and so on.

Just light lunch conversation with my little people!

Oh well, there are DEFINITELY worse things they could be paying attention to on television.

Related Blogs

Ignorance is Bliss?

home_fruit-veg

home_fruit-veg
Every now and then I find myself thinking how much easier life would be if I were completely ignorant… uninformed, unaware of any consequences or any ‘better way’.

I just had this conversation with another mom yesterday. Of course, we’re being facetious. But it’s an interesting thought nonetheless!

Just imagine…

I could eat whatever I wanted and feed my kids whatever was handy… the most convenient, cheapest, fastest, tastiest, most colorful packaging and so on. No doubt. No guilt.

Work out? Bah! Not if I didn’t feel like it! Shoot, that sounds like WORK! I could just lounge around, watching TV and eating those aforementioned foods.

I’d definitely buy into every fear-based piece of advice I heard on the news or from other “authority” figures… I’d be vaccinated, and so would my kids, out the wazoo!

I wouldn’t second guess the quality of education my kids were getting – I’d just assume that the schools know best. Heck, why wouldn’t they?! I’d just leave them in charge of what went into my kids’ brains.

I’d visit my doctor a lot… regularly, in fact! Every time I didn’t feel perfect… kids, too. I could take a wide assortment of drugs to numb every pain, discomfort, symptom or negative emotion.

My kids could play with anyone they wanted. They could watch TV for hours, play endless video games, have their own cell phones, and so on. They’d get to make their own food choices, too. Why not? They know what they like, after all!

I’d buy whatever household and personal care products were the cheapest, or prettiest, or most marketed, or most popular… with no concern in the world about how they effect my family’s health or the health of the planet.

Yeah. Life would be SO much easier if I could just remove what I know from my brain!

Before you jump on my case about this, I really do ‘fantasize’ about this at times! Ahhh, such a simple life… to not carry the burden of understanding consequences of our lifestyle choices!!

This is the paradigm in which I grew up. Not because my parents were “bad people” by any means. Quite the contrary in fact. They just didn’t KNOW. And nobody told them. They bought into the same system and paradigm that the masses did… and still do.

I’m glad I know what I know.

Related Blogs

Home School in Session!

The home school crew - first day of "school"!
The home school crew - first day of "school"!

Once again, we’ve made the decision to home school our kids. I honestly didn’t think we’d come to this decision again this year… mostly because of my work schedule and expectations… not because of “home schooling” itself.

But, some things were just too powerful to overcome… like our core philosophy and beliefs about health, safety, happiness and parenting.

I’ve come to discover that our reasons for home schooling are not necessarily the most common.

Go figure!

I’ll be sharing much more about the “why” behind our decision in upcoming posts, but suffice it to say, we want to raise healthy children and I’m not sure that school can afford that opportunity to the extent that home and parents can. (Speaking for ourselves and our situation, that is.)

Our kids will be back in a conventional school one day, I’m sure. By that time, I’m counting on the fact that they’ll be older and wiser, and better equipped to make healthy choices on their own… despite what others around them are choosing or offering!

Time will tell!

Let the fun begin…


Related Blogs

An Overlooked Benefit of Growing Your Own Food

We’re finally back from our week-long getaway. Ahhhh… it was nice… a much-appreciated break!

(Although, I was abruptly reminded on a few occasions, that my children take their drama with them wherever they go! Ugh. Siblings. Enough already!)

So, you know that not-so-fun feeling you get when you return from vacation… and you have to unload the car, unpack everything, start creating that mountain of laundry that you’ll have to conquer some time soon… and THEN you realize that you have NOTHING to eat in the house??

(Why would you, silly? You’ve been gone for a week!)

I can honestly say that I’ve never been happier to have a vegetable garden than I was tonight!

After unloading, unpacking AND THEN going waaaaay beyond the usual and customary expectations of my role – using the weed trimmer everywhere, as well as hand-pulling weeds – I remembered that we had “no food”.

There was NO way I was going to make the 20 – 25 minute trip into a grocery store after a full day of driving, unpacking the remnants of our week away, and attempting to win landscaper/gardener of the year!

Of course, there’s always the hodge-podge stashed in the freezer! But after suffering through a few too many restaurant meals in the past seven days, I wanted “real” food!

“Ah-HA! I’ll go check the garden!” I thought.

Bingo! It was LOADED with tons of goodies we could call dinner!

After feeling vegetable-deficient for a week(even though we had veggies everyday… it just wasn’t the same), I think we made up for it all in one meal!

We had green beans, snow peas, green peas, a few Brussels sprouts, a few cherry tomatoes, some Romaine, spinach, bib lettuce, arugula, chard and collard greens.

My kids joked during dinner that they sure met their quota for veggies tonight… and that maybe they shouldn’t have to eat quite so many for the next few days!

Funny little people, they are!

Tomorrow I’ll make it back to the grocery store. For tonight, I was SO glad to have our own little source of home grown produce right outside the back door.

Even if you only have the room, or the time, or the patience for a tomato plant or some fresh herbs, I’d highly recommend this little piece of food heaven! Works well in a pinch!

Related Blogs

Second Edition of “Nurtured”

FYI: I’ve been plugging away at the second edition of “Nurtured.”

This time around, it’s actually, “Nurtured… The Ultimate Guide for Creating the Happy, Healthy Life We All Deserve!”

Should be done with it tomorrow… then off for the final editing and formatting… then a REAL book! I’ll let you know when it’s ready!

(“Nurtured – The Transformational Home Study DVDs are next!)

Related Blogs

Children’s Nutrition – Who Should Be Feeding Our Kids?

As a parent in a free country, I’d like to think that I’m still allowed to choose how to parent my children. I don’t think that anyone has a more vested interest in the welfare of their child than that child’s parents.

I think it’s my job as a parent to keep my children safe and healthy, to fill them up with unconditional love and acceptance, to build a solid foundation of faith, morals, principles, character, logic and common sense… so that they can base all of their future decisions (when mom and dad aren’t around) upon that solid foundation, and to lovingly keep them on track… guiding them back “into line” when they get “out of line”!

I don’t expect a school or another parent to be responsible for all those things. Ultimately, it’s MY job as their parent. (I DO expect other adults that surround my children on a regular basis to contribute to their positive growth and development on a variety of levels.)

When it comes to nutrition and keeping our kids healthy, it’s a big job with massive responsibility. There are very real consequences to the decisions we make on behalf of our children. That’s why I’m not willing to just let ‘anyone’ make those decisions FOR me… or for my children.

Here’s an article I recently wrote on this subject. Please read it and share it with others… and let me know YOUR thoughts!

http://tinyurl.com/na3qoo

Related Blogs

Happy Father’s Day!

I’ve been spending some time today thinking about the two dads in my life ~ MY dad and my children’s dad.

They’re so different, yet possess similar core qualities – like dedication to family – that make them such great men.

I’m just feeling exceptionally fortunate today to have such solid fathers in my life!

My dad has taught me some of the most important lessons, traits and skills in my life. What he has provided me is truly priceless. We’ve had our differences of opinion over the years (my mother just laughed herself right off of her throne in heaven!!), but I’m forever grateful for my dad’s constant love and support, integrity, strength, work ethic and commitment.

One of my favorite lessons he taught me that I’m determined to pass along to my children is: “Do what’s right… whether anyone notices or not… even if you could get away with less.”

My husband is making his own path as an extraordinary dad as well. I’m thoroughly impressed by the wisdom and life lessons he’s able to share with our kids, mixed in with some seriously wild fun! He’s such a fabulous combination of leader, teacher, coach, fan and a big, silly, overgrown kid!

My children and I are blessed to have these great men in our lives.

Happy Father’s Day to all the great dad’s out there, and to all of you who are remembering your dads today.

Related Blogs

Let Me Clarify the Breast Cancer “Issue”…

As you can probably tell, I have some rather deep emotions attached to the breast cancer issue!

For me, it’s a blend of personal with professional. I’ve gone through it with mom. I’ve done my homework – the conventional mindset, paradigm and treatment, as well as the more holistic approach. I also understand the research end of things.

I’m not a heartless, detached observer who just likes to spew opinions about the current medical monopoly on cancer! But it’s interesting the response you get when you dare tread on the sacred ground of cancer.

Interesting.

My mom had cancer. My dad has cancer. I have (had) several friends with cancer. I’m anything but heartless and detached on this issue.

Although I disagree with where the vast majority of the billions of dollars is being spent in the cancer business, I completely support the people who are trying to make a difference. THIS is what I wanted to clarify. I honor the people.

We do the best we can with the information and tools we have available at the current time, within our current belief system.

I don’t agree with the paradigm – the foundational premise – upon which the current research, treatment, information/education and fund raising are based.

The countless people who do “the walks”, raise the money, work the booths, help those going through cancer and recovering from it, and so on and so on are passionate and dedicated and are truly commited to helping others. I honor that. These are some exceptional human beings.

I just get SO completely irked at times by how incongruent the messages are.

Like the 1-2 punch at the breast cancer awareness booth the other day. Quite clearly, the routine was 1) invite passersby over to have a pretty pink sweet, and then 2) once they were indulging, they were asked for a donation for research for a cure for cancer.

The incongruency and misleading premise of that entire message makes my stomach turn. You can’t talk about “a cure” when you’re not even sure exactly how and where the money is being spent AND you’re handing people a proven contributor to the disease itself! (sugar intake causes inlflammation and decrease immune function and insulin response… all of which are the pillars of chronic illness.)

The women at the booth, by the way, were absolute sweethearts. I just wish they were being given something more congruent, truthful, scientific and successful to “pedal”.

I look forward to the day when “research” is primarily focused on how to NOT develop cancer in the first place… and teach the masses how to do that. Instead, we have an approach that’s based on treating the condition once it’s present, or attempting to genetically modify our cells in order to “trick” our genetic expression! Isn’t it a whole lot easier, and certainly safer, and FAR more cost effective to focus on the environmental lifestyle factors that have been proven to be so clearly connected to cancer?

Epigenetics is the science that, in many updated researchers’ educated opinions, is far superior to “old school” genetics. Epigenetics explains how we can ‘have the genes for cancer’ (or other conditions) yet not necessarily ever develop cancer. Epigenetics proves that a gene is only like a recipe in a cookbook, as described by Dr. James Chestnut, B.Ed., M.Sc., D.C.,C.C.W.P. The environment is what determines whether or not that recipe will ever be created.

Can you imagine if we suddenly saw billions being dumped into teaching people how to make lifestyle choices that are congruent with their genetic requirements to create health and prevent chronic illness, like cancer? What if some of that money were spent on providing the “tools” for these cancer-preventing choices, and making these things readily available to the masses (like chemo, radiation and drugs currently are)?

I wonder if there’s enough money in that approach to make the powers-that-be ever take it seriously?

I’d also love to see more “treatments” that cause less harm. Then again, I guess many of those are already out there and available… they’re just not from mainstream allopathy, so they’re not widely recommended.

I know my mother was essentially ridiculed and scolded by the oncology team when she expressed that she’d like to also incorporate some less harmful approaches in her treatment, like nutrition and other holistic choices. She was told that her “only options are chemotherapy and radiation… NOTHING else will ever work.”

Hmmm. So THAT’S where all the money’s going?? Nice.

Although she did partake in much of the conventional treatment, mostly out of understandable fear (surgery, radiation and drugs), her official file states, “patient refused proper care”.

Funny definition of “proper”, if you ask me.

“Patient did what patient darn well FELT like doing, as every patient has the right to do.” I might add, “Patient had half a brain to question a system that claims success yet has no evidence of such.” (How can there be “success” if more and more are still being diagnosed?)

BUT, I’m elated for those who DO use *whatever* approach and the result is more life and/or greater quality of life… whether it’s for a very long time, or a short time. Life is life, however we get there!

So, to all of you who do the walks and raise the money, good for you! I know your heart is in the right place… because I know so many of you. I love seeing people reach out to help other people.

Hopefully, someday soon, your walking and your efforts will support research that is even more effective – research that focuses on how to keep people out of the “cancer treatment” process in the first place… and if they DO end up with cancer, research that provides MUCH more successful treatment options that come with far less risk.

Related Blogs

What Mother’s Day Means to Me…

Mother’s Day has taken on new meaning for me in the past couple of years. For my entire life it used to simply be a fun, jovial and “light” time to spoil my mom. Then I became a mom and it turned into a day for my mom and I to bask in the glow of attention… even if only for a nice dinner out with our family. Now, it has much greater depth and meaning in my heart.

It was Mother’s Day weekend two years ago when we were told that my mom’s breast cancer had spread throughout her body. My life forever changed in that moment. My mom was my most cherished best friend, my personal angel, my hero and my biggest fan. I felt like part of me died that spring. It was a crushing blow for all of us. But, through the darkness, something unexpected emerged – a bigger part of me began to fully live.

I started paying attention to things I had previously taken for granted. I started searching for the tiniest of blessings and miracles that God had placed in my path each day. I found beauty and love in places I had overlooked for years. I cherished each moment I was able to spend with mom (like I should have been doing all along!). I started doing the same with my husband, my children, my dad and all the other precious people I love. I realized like never before how incredibly blessed and fortunate I am. My mom’s dying, and the way she and I walked that journey together, was truly a gift in itself. With the bad, there is always the good… sometimes we just need to look for it more closely. God is so very good.

I miss the physical presence of my mom more than I ever thought I could miss anyone or anything. I feel like my heart and soul have deep, aching wounds ~ a gaping hole in the place where my life with mom used to be. Thank God, literally, time and faith have softened the edges of that hole. I’ve carefully, intentionally filled the rest of my heart with gratitude, appreciation and joy. I feel my mom’s beautiful, warm, loving smile as I take the time to nurture myself and heal.

In this ’season’ of Mother’s Day, of course my thoughts drift to my mom even more than usual. I’ve found that my emotions can be all over the place in the weeks leading up to the day. Yes, there is sadness. But there is overwhelming gratitude as well. My mom didn’t leave behind a fortune of jewels, money or material things. She left me with a priceless legacy far more valuable.

My mom taught me everything I needed to know about being a great mom and an exceptional woman, all through her example. She taught me about choosing happiness, even when it’s not easy. She taught me how to love unconditionally and how to fully accept people, without judging. She taught me how to have faith and trust God, no matter what. She taught me to do the right thing, regardless of whether anybody would notice. She showed me how to be kind, patient and gentle. She showed me time and time again how just being really nice and sincere makes other people feel really good. She showed me how to create a fulfilling, meaningful, joyful, loving and rich life by doing little things that make a big difference.

This is my mom’s legacy.

When I think about Mother’s Day, I don’t care about material things like jewelry or store-bought cards and gifts. I don’t need to be spoiled or wined and dined. In fact, now I know why mom always said that, too! What I desire the most is to truly enjoy my family and feel every ounce of gratitude I have for their presence in my life. The most cherished gifts are heartfelt words, the homemade gifts and acts of appreciation and love. Sure, if you really want me to, I’ll let you drag me to a nice restaurant, too! And if I really, really have to, I’ll even let you give me a massage as a gift… but only to make you happy!! (But I don’t want it on Mother’s Day. I want my family on Mother’s Day.)

I’d like a few quiet moments to ‘be with’ my mom, to reflect upon the significance of my own role as a mom and the legacy I’m creating, and to express my gratitude to all the other incredible nurturing women in my life. Of course, I’d love for my family to handle the meals and clean up on Mother’s Day, but only so I get even more time to relax and enjoy them! I just want to “play” with my family ~ combine my favorite things to do, like something ‘outdoorsy’, with my favorite people, minus all the work. That’s MY kind of math! Can you imagine how much more fun motherhood would be if we didn’t have all those daily domestic duties… and we could just relax and enjoy the people we love the most! That’s what I’d like a little taste of on Mother’s Day… and maybe a few other days throughout the year would be nice!

Motherhood is the hardest, most challenging thing I’ve ever done. But God rewards me with profound joy, pure and intense emotion, infinite depths of love, and some unbelievably hilarious moments! I am truly blessed to be a mom!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Related Blogs

Lessons on Drugs, Sickness and Living Life

As a Wellness doc, my feet are firmly planted in the wellness paradigm and I believe strongly in the principles of health and healing, as opposed to the sickness model.

I’ve found it interesting that, although my core beliefs haven’t swayed, over the years my application of these principles has expanded greatly. What used to be black and white back in school, or when I first started out in practice, is no longer.

This is a little story about weaving my health principles into the human experience and how such experiences have forced me to grow as an individual… and become a better, more understanding doctor.

http://www.articlesengine.com/Article/Lessons-on-Drugs–Sickness-and-Living-Life/334333/1

Enjoy… and pass it along!

Related Blogs

The Art and Science of Hanging Clothes Out to Dry

For the past 3 months we’ve been without a clothes dryer. Ours threw in the towel right after the holidays. Most likely due to excessive wear and tear! Man, for four people, we sure do a lot of laundry!

When we purchased our washer and dryer, we went with a cool little European combo… supposedly extremely energy efficient and environmentally responsible. Uh huh.

‘Supposedly’ doesn’t last all that long. ‘Supposedly’ needs a European repair person to fix it, too!

Unfortunately, it’s just not in the cards right now to spend a mortgage payment on having a foreign-dryer-repair-person come over to offer life-saving care to our little tumbler.

Alas, I need to hang our clothes.

At first, it seemed like an inconvenience of astronomical proportions! I mean, it’s one thing to ‘choose’ to hang your clothes on the line… when the weather is nice… when you’ve got the time, etc. But to HAVE to hang your clothes – even when it’s frigid or raining… when you’re in a hurry… now that’s a pain.

That was around the same time that I realized I had become a spoiled brat!

I recalled thinking the same prima-donna-like thoughts around the time our microwave kicked the bucket. I thought, “Hey, we’ve made it three years without a stinkin’ microwave now… I can make it without a stinkin’ dryer!”

I rationalized that a microwave has a negative impact on our health, so working around it and going without its perceived conveniences was actually a blessing. I figured that going without a dryer would be a blessing for our energy bills and the environment as a whole. (Gotta’ look for that glass being half full sometimes!)

Of course, it was also the dead of winter in Michigan… the image of freshly laundered clothes blowing in the sunny breeze was a pipe dream! Nope, on laundry day(s) our house looked like an oddly arranged second hand clothing store – clothes hung on any available rod or hook for drying!

I would silently repeat to myself, “We’re so blessed to have these clothes… we’re so blessed to have these clothes… I appreciate these clothes… ” Even so, ever once in awhile, I’d still sneak up on my dryer to see if it magically started working while I wasn’t looking!

You can’t imagine how happy I am that warmer spring weather is finally here! I think the clothesline is simply the greatest invention!

My neighbors think I’m nuts. “Why do you always look so happy to be hanging laundry?!” Ha!

I love it (now)! It’s a few minutes outside that I probably wouldn’t have experienced otherwise. I’ve heard beautiful bird calls and witnessed many awe-inspiring scenes of nature. I’ve chatted with neighbors more than ever. I’ve been able to overhear my children playing in their imaginary roles when they didn’t think I was listening.

Of course, it’s also rather interesting that laundry has become somehow more efficient: I don’t do it almost everyday like I used to (I need to wait for sunny days now!), and I don’t seem to do as much of it. No, I’m not just throwing away clothes once we’ve worn them! I think the whole process has just made us realize how wasteful we were being, both with our time and resources.

It has been fabulous! I’m not sure I’ll feel this way come November, if we still don’t have a dryer… but for now, it’s great! Hanging clothes on the line has forced me to slow down my sometimes crazed pace of life and just relax. Yes, it has actually become relaxing! I love the simplicity of it. I love the time to think.

I always end up thinking about my mom. How much I miss her, yes. But even more than that, I think about happy childhood memories and the beautiful life she created for our family. I’m inspired to be the type of mom she was… to create that simple, loving beauty for my children.

I think about all the time mom and I spent hanging clothes on the line together. Little did I know then that we were doing much more than laundry… we were creating a beautiful life rich with loving memories!

Here’s a great little article I recently came across that brought these thoughts and memories to the surface. Enjoy!

http://journalstar.com/articles/2009/04/13/living/402/doc49ded532d7a7d707872505.txt

Dr. Colleen Live on YouTube…

YouTube Preview Image

Please open this post to view a personal video message from Dr. Colleen. You may view it by clicking on the title above or the ‘continue reading’ link below.

 

After viewing the video please go here to learn more.

 

Have a happy and healthy day!

Summer Camp Grand Finale

OK, maybe you were wondering if my daughter (and I) made it through the rest of summer day camp… sorry for the delay in posts!

The last couple of days in camp were less eventful – food and toxicity wise – than the first 3, thank goodness! I guess that was mostly because I was actually there for lunch on those days!

Anyhow, on the final day of camp, my son and I joined my daughter and the other kids for a fabulous hands-on science presentation. It was truly a fantastic experience! The very knowledgeable and entertaining nature expert brought along 5 different creatures that all had some connection to the rain forest, which was the theme of camp.

First, she brought out a beautiful 26 year old tortoise. Each child had an opportunity to touch it, watch it eat and examine it up close. Then came the macaw. Hilarious bird! Each child (and grown-up) held out an arm to serve as a perch for the gorgeous bird and experience its antics at the closest range. Next was an armadillo. What a crazy little creature! The kids thought it was hilarious! The fourth animal was an anteater. This little guy had personality galore! When he walked around on his hind legs, I thought he looked like a miniature polar bear with a squished head!

When the extra large cooler was rolled around to the front of the group, I got a little suspicious. When nature lady started describing the full grown size of the mystery creature in the cooler, I definitely felt a lump in my throat! “This next rain forest inhabitant can grow to 20, 30 even 40 feet long.” Uh-oh. My knees feel funny.

“Females can weigh 400 pounds, males can weigh 250 pounds.” Where’s the exit???

I have had a life long “fear” of snakes. Kinda’. They’ve always freaked me out… as a kid they were everywhere on the country property I grew up on. I stepped on one with bare feet when I was little. One fell out of the tree onto me when I was an adolescent. They’d be curled up on our front porch from time to time, or in the dog’s area outside when I’d go to feed it. They’ve always seemed bound and determined to freak the living bejeebers out of me! But, no matter how much they’ve frightened me in the past, I have always been curious… from a distance!

Well, nature lady pulled out a 14 foot Burmese Python – the yellow and white kind. I slowly moved to the opposite side of the presentation circle! As far as I was concerned, my kids were on their own!

But then something happened. Over the course of the next 15 minutes or so, this particular snake grew on me. Yup. It made me laugh a few times as it demonstrated its pick pocket skills! Funny reptile he was.

As the python was carried around the circle and all the kids took their turns ‘wearing’ him around their necks, I started to get a tiny bit brave! Tiny bit, I said! By the time he was at our side, I broke through several decades of fear and TOUCHED him! Uh-huh, I sure did. I stroked his back (I AM a Chiropractor after all!), I kinda’ gave him a little snakey hug with TWO entire hands on him at once and I almost touched his head… but he wouldn’t keep that creepy little tongue in his mouth long enough!

I called my husband later on that day and told him the big news. He absolutely could not believe it! We’ve known each other for 17 years, and he NEVER thought he’d see the day!

Unfortunately, I don’t think a single soul caught this life changing moment on film! And the REAL kicker, when I asked my children (who were looking directly at me as I was petting the snake) if they saw mommy touching the snake, they both said, “NO”.

You have GOT to be kidding me. The nerve of my off spring!

Oh well, at least I know! (sometimes I need a little more than that, though!)

Creating a String of Pearls

Once again, I’ve just recently finished going through my morning “ME time”… it’s the time of day when my mind is at its “loftiest”! I have great insight and clarity both during and immediately after my rituals. It’s an absolutely amazing feeling… especially since there are many other moments during the day that I’m convinced I might just be losing my mind! I much prefer my clear, calm and focused morning brain!

Anyhow, I thought I’ve been focused on for the past 3 or 4 mornings during my rituals is the thought of “creating a string of pearls” with my children. I had been beating myself up with some mommy guilt about ‘reacting’ too much with the kids – getting upset with the- spending too much time correcting and disciplining and not making their lives fun enough.

But, I also know in my heart that I have many amazing moments with them. I was becoming frustrated, thinking things like, “why can’t we just get through a day without….. (fill in the blank) you guys fighting….. somebody hitting….. sassy talk…. whining… etc. etc.”

I was taking it very personally that I couldn’t seem to create the perfect, unruffled day with them. Unrealistic, I know. Frustrating nonetheless.

Then it came to me a few mornings ago. The thought isn’t new to me, but I was different this time around, and ready to ‘hear’ the thought differently.

I’m really very good at creating “moments” with the kids. You know, those little specs of time when everything’s perfect and happy and loving. Those moments when you feel the deepest connection and joy. The moments when it all comes together – “Ahhhh yes, this is what motherhood is all about!” Personally, in those moments, I fully understand my purpose in this world.

So, instead of trying to create the perfect day, I decided to set my sights a little lower! I’ll focus on creating those cherished, loving and totally present moments with the kids… and I’ll intentionally create more of those throughout the day. Yeah, that’s what I’ll do! That’s more manageable!

I think of those blissful little moments as the “pearls”- my treasured snippets of love and peace and connection. The more of those pearls I can create (or notice as they are happening), the more beautiful of a necklace I can create.

My wish is that as my children grow up and look back upon their lives, overall, they’ll see the beautiful necklace.

My pearls are simple and “do-able” things like: greeting the kids with a smile and hugs and a cheerful disposition, regardless of what I may have been preoccupied with a moment earlier; truly feeling and appreciating their hugs; snuggling at least once a day; saying ‘yes’ more to their innocent, age-appropriate requests; and making eye contact with them and smiling and following along as they tell me all about their imaginary world!

I’m no perfect mom, but these little items even I can master! (at least most of the time!)

I’m sure I’ll need to re-read this post at some point down the road to remind myself of this great insight… I know full well that we need to continue affirming thoughts and habits like these, ‘cuz the craziness of life tends to take us off track! ‘Tis the nature of the beast!

Mom’s "ME Time"

As I sit here typing this post, I’m doing so with much gratitude in my heart. My morning has been calm, peaceful, focused, centered and fulfilling.

That’s because my children aren’t out of bed yet!!!

Seriously, I recognized many, many months ago, that early morning sleep was a small price to pay in exhange for my personal happiness, emotional balance and spiritual fulfillment.

Some mornings are more of a challenge getting out of bed than others, especially when everyone else is tucked in so comfy and warm, but the return on my investment is incomparable.

Right now, I feel incredibly balanced and complete. I’m perfectly relaxed, yet I have a giddy sense of deep happiness. No, I haven’t turned to drugs!

I simply went through my ‘list’ of morning rituals. I did my affirmations and visualizing. I reviewed my dream board and miracle list. I prayed and asked God to oversee my day and all my wishes. I asked for help where I’m lacking clarity. I gave thanks for all that I have. Then I listened for a ‘response’.

This morning I was blessed to have one of those “ah-ha” moments in my quiet time. I turned to my journal and quickly jotted down my new insight. Fabulous!

Now I can’t wait for the kids to come downstairs so I can apply my new found wisdom on them!

I just wanted to share a snippet of my morning with you since it’s such a vital component of my overall health and happiness. My early morning rituals are my life savers many days! I highly and wholeheartedly recommend that every mom find some “ME time” every single day. Time to think lofty thoughts, pray, listen and plant the mental, emotional and spiritual seeds that you want to see flourish into beautiful things!

(Of course, now my challenge is to maintain this “Zen-like” state when the two nut burgers come loudly racing down the stairs, making all sorts of crazy demands on their mommy! Ah yes, maintaining a state of grace in the midst of chaos is no easy task… but it’s a worthy and rewarding challenge!)